作为父母，你可能会觉得你很了解你的孩子。但是人包括孩子们都在不断地改变和发展新的情感、恐惧、想法和偏好。因此，为了继续了解你的孩子，你需要不断地问问题， 开始对话 。唯一的问题是？孩子们是“一两个字”的话题终结大师。即使是常见的话题，例如“你今天过得怎么样？“，也可能很快会结束。
但其实孩子们通常不害怕表达自己的感受，只是你需要一些更好的话题。以下是部分我收集的话题清单，通过和孩子讨论这些启发性的问题，你可以发现很多他们看待世界的方式。这是最好的儿童问题游戏之一。
如果你的孩子一开始对回答你的问题不感兴趣，也不要担心。不要催促他们回答或太快地转移到另一个问题。让你的孩子慢慢来，这表明你真的对他们要说的话感兴趣，而不仅仅是机械地问。
幼儿 Toddlers & 学龄前 Preschoolers
这些问题将帮助你在各个层面上了解孩子，从内心世界到他们的梦想、抱负、目标和恐惧…
If your stuffed animals could talk, what would they say?
如果你的毛绒玩具会说话，它们会说什么？
What does it feel like when I hug you?
我抱你的时候是什么感觉？
If you drew everything that came into your head, what would you be drawing right now?
如果你画出所有进入你脑海的东西，你现在会画什么？
What do you think you’re going to dream about tonight?
你觉得你今晚会梦到什么？
What sounds do you like best and why?
你最喜欢什么声音，为什么？
If you were going to spend the whole day outside, what outdoor activities would you do?
如果你要在户外度过一整天，你会做什么户外活动 ？
How do you think animals communicate?
你认为动物是如何交流的？
Describe a great day: What are you doing that makes it special?
描述一个伟大的一天：你在做什么，使它特别？
What animal would make a great driver?
什么样的动物能成为一个好司机？
Do you like it when other people share with you? Why?
你喜欢别人与你分享吗？为什么？
Who is your favorite storybook character?
你最喜欢的故事书人物是谁？
What one thing do you do now that you usually need an adult for, but would like to try to do all by yourself?
你现在做的哪一件事通常需要成年人来做，但你想自己做？
If you had to give everyone in the family new names, what would they be?
如果你必须给家里的每个人起新名字，你会给他们起什么名字？
What makes you happy?
什么让你快乐？
If you could do anything right now, what would you do?
如果你现在可以做任何事，你会做什么？
If you had a pet dragon, what would you name it?
如果你有一只宠物龙，你会给它起什么名字？
What would you do together with your pet dragon?
你会和你的宠物龙一起做什么？
幼儿园 Kindergarteners
What movie, TV, or book character makes you laugh the most?
什么电影、电视或书中的角色最让你发笑？
If you opened a store, what would you sell?
如果你开了一家商店，你会卖什么？
How do you think other people feel when you’re kind to them?
当你对别人好的时候，你觉得别人会怎么想？
How do you think kids who do tease others feel about themselves? How do you think kids who get teased feel?
你认为那些取笑别人的孩子对自己有什么感觉？你觉得被嘲笑的孩子是什么感觉？
How do you help yourself face your fears?
你如何帮助自己面对恐惧？
What’s your superhero name, and what powers do you have?
你的超级英雄叫什么名字，你有什么超能力？
If you could grow anything in the yard, what would it be?
如果你能在院子里种任何东西，你会种什么？
If you could change one thing about the world, what would it be?
如果你能改变世界上的一件事，那会是什么？
What do you enjoy giving to people?
你喜欢给别人什么？
Did you smile or laugh extra today? What did you laugh about?
你今天有没有特别的微笑或大笑？你笑什么？
Pretend you’re a chef and tell me about your restaurant: What foods do you serve?
假装你是一个厨师，告诉我你的餐馆：你提供什么食物？
Where would you like to travel and why? How would you get there?
你想去哪里旅行，为什么？你要怎么去？
If you could ask a wild animal any question, what would you ask?
如果你可以问一个野生动物任何问题，你会问什么？
If your pets could talk, what would they say?
如果你的宠物会说话，它们会说什么？
What are some of the most amazing things about nature?
大自然最神奇的是什么？
If you were a photographer for a day, what would you take pictures of?
如果你是一名摄影师，你会拍什么？
Did you have a chance to be kind to anyone today?
你今天有机会对别人好点吗？
If you could invent one tool what would it be?
如果你能发明一种工具，你会发明什么？
If you could learn any language, what would it be?
如果你可以学习任何一种语言，你会选择什么？
If you could make up a new holiday, what would it be?
如果你能创造一个新的节日，你会创造什么？
What is the funniest thing you’ve ever eaten?
你吃过的最有趣的东西是什么？
What would you do if you made the rules at home?
如果你在家制定规则，你会怎么做？
What makes someone smart?
是什么让一个人聪明？
If you wrote a book, what would it be about?
如果你写一本书，你会写什么？
What was your favorite thing about today?
今天你最喜欢的是什么？
大一点的孩子 Older Kids
随着孩子的成长，他们的沟通和语言技能也会随之提高，但这并不意味着他们是开放的。用这些问题来吸引年龄较大的孩子。
What do you like daydreaming about?
你喜欢做什么白日梦？
When your brain makes you think negative thoughts—such as ‘you’ll never succeed’ or ‘no one likes you?’—what are some things you can tell yourself to change these thoughts?
当你的大脑让你想到消极的想法时，比如“你永远不会成功”或“没有人喜欢你”？你能告诉自己什么来改变这些想法？
What is something about you that I might not know?
你身上有什么我不知道的？
What have your friends been up to?
你的朋友们都在忙些什么？
What’s a memory that makes you happy?
什么样的记忆能让你快乐？
What do you look forward to when you wake up?
当你醒来时，你期待什么？
Let’s say you’re at the beach: What’s the first thing you do?
假设你在海滩：你做的第一件事是什么？
What makes you feel brave?
是什么让你感到勇敢？
What makes you feel loved?
是什么让你感到被爱？
How do you show people you care?
你如何向人们表达你的关心？
If you could achieve any goal, however impossible it seems, what would it be?
如果你能实现任何一个目标，不管它看起来多么不可能，你会实现什么目标？
Is it ever OK to ever cheat in school or sports?
在学校或体育比赛中作弊可以吗？
If you could give $100 to a charity, what charity would you choose?
如果你可以给一个慈善机构100美元，你会选择什么慈善机构？
How would you design a treehouse?
你会如何设计一个树屋？
If you wrote a book, what would it be about?
如果你写一本书，你会写什么？
If you designed clothes, what would they look like?
如果你设计衣服，它们会是什么样子？
How do you best like helping others?
您最喜欢如何帮助他人？
What makes you feel thankful?
是什么让你感到感激 ？
If you lived in a cave in the woods, how would you decorate it?
如果你住在森林里的一个山洞里，你会怎么装饰它？
What makes you feel energized?
是什么让你感到精力充沛？
What traits do you look for in friends?
你在朋友身上寻找什么特质？
If you were in a movie, what character would want to play?
如果你在一部电影里，你想扮演什么角色？
What do you think about clothing styles that are popular today?
你对现在流行的服装款式有什么看法？
What do you think is the most important quality a person can have?
你认为一个人最重要的品质是什么？
What is one thing you want to achieve before you finish school?
在你完成学业之前，你想做的一件事是什么？
What are three things you want to do this summer?
今年夏天你想做的三件事是什么？
If you had friends all over the world, how would you keep in touch?
如果你的朋友遍布世界各地，你会如何保持联系？
If you joined the circus, what would your circus act be?
如果你加入马戏团，你的马戏表演是什么？
Do you think the discipline and consequences in our family are fair?
你认为我们家的纪律和后果公平吗？
If you could make three family rules, what would they be?
如果你可以制定三条家规，那会是什么？
What do you think are the most important qualities of a good parent?
你认为一个好父母最重要的品质是什么？
What is your favorite family tradition?
你最喜欢的家庭传统是什么？
What are some things that you don’t need, but you’re really happy that you have?
有哪些东西是你不需要的，但你真的很高兴你有？
If you were a teacher and could teach your students anything at all, what would you teach them?
如果你是一个老师，可以教你的学生任何东西，你会教他们什么？
If a friend asked you to keep a secret that you don’t feel comfortable keeping, what would you do?
如果一个朋友让你保守一个你觉得不舒服的秘密，你会怎么做？
您可以随时随地向您的孩子提问。然而，选择一个时间和地点，当你的孩子专注，平静，不慌不忙可能会导致更深入的答案。如果他们也能少一些分心的事情会更好。例如开车 、睡觉、排队或等待约会，以及餐桌上都是进行这些讨论的绝佳空间，因为在这些时候你可能会得到孩子的全部注意力。为了方便你随时获得这些话题，我向你推荐「哲学少年」这个 iOS 应用，你可以使用它，每天和孩子选择一个问题来谈论。
